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Counselling After Trauma and Difficult Experiences
Some experiences stay with you. An accident, an assault, a hospital emergency, something at home, something years ago. If it still shapes your sleep, your mood or your relationships, you can talk about it here.
You do not need to be sure it counts as trauma. You do not need to tell the whole story on day one. Sessions move at the pace you set, one to one, in person in Mumbai or online. Many people come years later, and that is completely fine.
- Private, one to one
- In person at our Mumbai centres, or online
- You choose what you talk about, and when
What We Help With
Pick what feels closest to your situation. Not sure which one? That is fine, we can work it out in the first conversation.
After an accident, assault or medical emergency
Something sudden that happened to you: on the road, at work, in a hospital, or at the hands of another person.
The body often stays switched on long after the event is over. Sleep goes, the scene replays, and ordinary things like traffic, a lift or a hospital smell can set it off. If there is a police complaint, hospital paperwork or an insurance file running alongside, that adds its own weight. You can bring all of it into the room.
- Sleep breaks, or you keep the light on
- You avoid the road, the lift or the ward
- The scene comes back without warning
- You feel jumpy, watchful or quick to anger
Therapists usually start with sleep and the body, then work on the memory itself at a pace you agree together, rather than asking you to retell everything at once.
Things that happened in childhood
What happened, or did not happen, when you were young and had no way to change it.
Childhood sets what feels normal. Being hit, being shamed, being ignored, or growing up around fighting, drinking or illness can leave a pattern you carry into adult relationships and work. You may have told nobody. You may still see the people involved at every family function. Neither of those stops you from getting support now.
- You expect people to leave or turn on you
- Small criticism lands very hard
- Whole stretches of childhood are blank
- You keep everyone happy and lose yourself doing it
Making sense of the pattern, rather than digging up every memory. This work usually goes slowly, and you decide what stays private.
Being hurt or controlled by someone close (abuse and unsafe relationships)
Being hurt, threatened, controlled or made to feel afraid by a partner, a family member or someone else close to you.
If you are in danger right now, call 112. The national women’s helpline is 181, and the police can be reached on 112. Abuse is not only physical. Being controlled, threatened, cut off from money or from your own family, or made to feel afraid at home counts too. A therapist will not tell you to leave and will not tell you to stay, and will never ask you to confront the person. What a session can do is help you think through your next step safely, in your own time. One thing to know before you start: if something you share points to a child being unsafe, the law may require your therapist to act on it. Your therapist will explain this in the first session.
- You check their mood before you speak
- Money, phone or where you go is controlled
- Threats, shouting or silence are used to keep you in line
- You are told it is your fault, and you half believe it
A private space to work out what you want your next step to be, what support exists, and how to stay as safe as possible while you decide.
Flashbacks, nightmares and feeling on edge
When the past keeps showing up in the present: in your sleep, in your body, in the middle of an ordinary day.
A flashback is not a memory you choose. It arrives, and for a moment the body behaves as if the thing is happening again. Nightmares, a racing heart, going blank, or feeling far away from yourself belong to the same family. These are things a mind does after too much. They are not a sign that you are losing control.
- The memory arrives as if it is happening now
- Nightmares, or waking up already afraid
- Going blank, or feeling far away from yourself
- A noise, a crowd or a smell can set it off
Grounding skills first, meaning simple practical ways to bring your attention back to the present, and then careful work on the memory once steadier ground is there.
After a disaster, violence or a frightening event in the city
Something that happened in Mumbai to you, to someone you know, or close enough that you saw it.
You do not have to have been the most affected person to be affected. People who were there, people who helped, people who waited for news, and people who watched it again and again on their phone all carry something afterwards. In the first weeks, fear, numbness and broken sleep are ordinary reactions to an extraordinary event. If they are still running your days much later, talking helps.
- You keep checking the news, or you cannot look at it
- Sleep and appetite have not come back
- Crowds, sirens or trains feel unsafe now
- You feel guilty for being alright
Plain information about what a body does after a shock, then practical steadying, and focused work on what you saw if it stays stuck.
Carrying it alone for years
When you never told anyone, and it has quietly become just how life is.
Plenty of people arrive ten or twenty years later. Staying silent is usually a decision that made sense at the time: to protect the family name, to keep the peace, to get on with studies or a job. It costs something to keep. Coming in now is not too late, and you do not have to tell your family that you came.
- Nobody in your life knows
- You have never said it out loud
- You manage well and feel hollow anyway
- Certain months or dates get heavy
Going at your speed, including sessions where you do not talk about it at all. What you share stays confidential, with the few legal exceptions your therapist will explain.
Also Here For You
People often come to us for these too:
Anger That Surprises You
A short fuse at home, and guilt about it afterwards.
Talk to us
When A Drink Or A Screen Became The Switch-Off
Ways of coping that worked for a while and now cost more than they give.
Talk to us
Supporting Someone Who Went Through It
For partners, parents and friends who want to help and do not know how.
Talk to us
Why This Kind Of Support Helps
The Pace Is Yours
You are not asked to retell everything to be taken seriously. Sessions can start with sleep, work, or just the last bad week.
Late Is Still Worth It
Years can pass before it feels possible to talk. That gap does not make your experience less real, or harder to work with.
Family And Reputation Are Part Of It
In many Indian homes, speaking up carries a cost for more people than you. We take that seriously instead of telling you to simply tell someone.
No Crisis Needed
You can come while things still feel small, or hard to put into words.
How It Works
Reach out
A first meeting, at your pace
Plan together
Check as you go
What A First Session Is Like
Mostly listening. Your therapist will ask what has been going on lately, how you are sleeping and eating, and what you want to be different. You can say as little as you like about the event itself. Nothing is reported back to your family. If anything feels like too much, you can stop, change the subject or take a break.
Psychologists And Counsellors
For talking therapy, one to one, in person or online.
A Psychiatrist, If Needed
For a medical opinion when medicine is worth discussing.
Family, If You Want
Joint sessions with the people close to you, only if you choose.
If you are supporting someone
You do not need the right words. Being steady helps more than advice does.
- Do not push for the story. Let them choose what to share and when.
- Keep ordinary routine going: meals, sleep, a walk, a phone call.
- Say you believe them. Do not weigh up whether it was bad enough.
- If they say they are unsafe or that they do not want to be here, stay with them and call 14416, or 112 if it is happening now.
If you need help right now
- If you are in danger, or thinking of ending your life or harming yourself, call 112 or go to the nearest hospital emergency.
- Tele-MANAS, the government mental health helpline, is free and open at any time on 14416 or 1-800 891 4416.
- Trijog is not an emergency service. Booking a session is not the right step when you need help in the next few hours.
If any of these is happening, please do not wait for an appointment. Call 112 or go to the nearest hospital emergency. Tele-MANAS is free and open any time on 14416 or 1-800 891 4416.
Try A Free Self-Check
A few quick questions about mood, sleep and stress. It is free and it is not a diagnosis. You will be asked for a phone number to start, and you can share the result with your therapist.
Mood Check
Stress And Worry Check
Frequently Asked Questions
Yes. You do not have to rank what happened to you against anyone else. If it is still affecting your sleep, mood, work or relationships, that is reason enough to talk to someone.
Not on day one, and not in detail unless you choose to. Early sessions are often about sleep, daily life and getting steadier. You set the pace, and you can stop at any point.
No. People often come ten or twenty years later. Time passing does not make the work impossible, and it does not make what happened smaller.
Not by us. What you share stays between you and your therapist. There are a few exceptions, such as serious risk to someone’s safety or where the law requires it, and your therapist will explain these at the start.
Yes. Therapy is separate from any legal process, and your therapist can help you handle the strain of it. If you want to know how session records are kept, ask in the first session and they will explain.
Yes. Sessions can be online, or in person at a Trijog centre in Mumbai. Some people prefer online at the start because their own room feels safer.
Visit Our Centres
Meet your therapist in person at one of our three Mumbai centres, or join online from home.
Powai
406, 4th Floor, B-Wing, Powai Plaza, opp. Nirvana Park, Hiranandani Gardens, Powai, Mumbai 400076
Phone: 1800 202 7180
Time: Mon to Sat, 8:00 AM to 10:00 PM
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Bandra
Office No. G6, Bandra Nicholas C.H.S Ltd, Sherlyn Rajan Road, Rizvi Complex, Bandra West, Mumbai 400050
Phone: 1800 202 7180
Time: Mon to Sat, 8:00 AM to 10:00 PM
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Prabhadevi
Dr. Palep's Polyclinic, Manoj Co-Operative Hsg Society, Shankar Ghanekar Marg, opp. Rachana Sansad College of Architecture, Prabhadevi, Mumbai 400025
Phone: 1800 202 7180
Time: Mon to Sat, 8:00 AM to 10:00 PM
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Start With One Conversation
You do not need the right words ready. Tell us what has been going on, and we will take it from there.
If you are thinking of ending your life or harming yourself, or you feel unsafe right now, call 112 or go to the nearest hospital emergency. For free support any time, call the government’s Tele-MANAS helpline on 14416 or 1-800 891 4416. Trijog is not an emergency service. Outside India, call your local emergency number.
Educational content, not therapy or a diagnosis. A Trijog therapist can help with what is yours specifically.